A Mental Health Discussion!

I started a discussion post on yesterday regarding mental health and mental illness.  I just wanted to share that everyday “common” folk can have some form of mental health/ mental illness at any given time.  Some forms of mental illness are: Anger/ Aggression, Anxiety Disorders (to include fears of...), Mood Disorders (depression, bipolar disorder, cyclothymic), Psychotic Disorders (schizophrenia), Eating Disorders (excessive weight gain, anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating), Impulse Control (pyromania (setting fires), kleptomania (stealing), gambling, alcohol consumption, drug consumption),  Addiction Disorders (gambling, alcohol consumption, drug consumption), Personality Disorders (antisocial, obsessive-compulsive, and paranoid), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders (ritualistic behavior; fear of germs), Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders (traumatic events-sexual, physical, unexpected death of a loved one, or natural disaster (fires), Stress Response Syndromes (Adjustment Disorders) (caused by stressful events), Dissociative Disorders (split personalities), Factitious Disorders (intentional lies about physical or emotional symptoms so they can appear to need help), Sexual and Gender Disorders (sexual dysfunction, gender identity disorder, and paraphillias), Somatic Symptom Disorders (feels pain even though doctor can't find a reason), and Tic Disorders (involuntary/uncontrollable sounds or body movements).

In light of there being so many events of racism, stereotypes, and death (unexpected).  I felt the need to address and identify and discuss topics regarding mental health.  Regardless of how perfect we may think we are or our life is.  We have all experienced at least one day of depression, feeling anxious, and/ or wishing/ hoping for a better life or better life’s circumstances.  With that being said, we all have mental health issues.  Most choose not to let the negative mental health issues consume us and shoot for positive life experiences on a daily basis.  However, there are others who may not be as fortunate.  We can’t ostracize these individuals because they may not have the courage or strength to push past their irrational thoughts which leads to true mental illness.  There are some individuals who have superb support systems which ensure that their loved ones and friends are not allowed to wallow in their “funk.”  Then there are others who no one really cares about.  As a society, we have become cruel and callous, not caring about the next man (until it benefits us).  Part of my purpose and God-given assignment is to remind people that they are valuable and that they have worth.  I am not too good to meet people where they are.  I have sat in the best of homes and I have sat in the worst of homes and at neither time did I make anyone appear uncomfortable or that I was being judgmental to their situation.  I have always ensured that I offer solutions to make the situation better if they presented their issue as a problem.  You never know when the shoe will be on the other foot.  Always treat people with kindness and the way that you desire to be treated!  My prayer is that we be able to have discussions within our communities regarding mental health/ mental illness while finding solutions and supporting those (with resources) that are less fortunate than we are.  Doc

And You Thought You Were Alone

Recently in my journey to get my mind, body, and soul on the right track I decided to hire a personal trainer. I just felt I was at the point in my workout that either I was going to go hard for what I wanted or I was going to continue to fiddle around and "make believe" workout. I'm sure you all can relate. You start off good and you're at the gym everyday then one weekend of hanging with the girls or the fellas and what was everyday becomes every other day. Then every other day becomes "I'll start fresh next week" and the next thing you know next week has come and went and you can't figure out how you gained the five pounds back. My point is I knew that I needed some help.

The other day while working out my trainer kept saying "you not alone...lets get it!" It got me to thinking. For years I've struggled with fluctuations in my weight and even my emotional and mental growth. Everytime I found myself at a standstill I began to isolate myself from others telling myself "I fix me...I don't need nobodies help." How wrong was I!!

While standing there with my trainer I began to think about my weightloss and particularly my weight gain. While ultimately it was I who was responsible for how much weight I gained I did not gain it alone. I see the perplexed looks on your face but bare with me.

Over the years I have had alot of help gaining weight. The help came from the friendly waitress at my favorite restaurant that offered the dessert I just couldn't resist...she even offered to wrap it up for me if I was too full of calories to eat it at the moment, or the drive through worker who was so friendly as they made me aware of how I could pack in a thousand more calories for only $5.00... FIVE DOLLARS you can't beat that! Or how about the friend who told me about the new place up the street and how they fresh bake bread every morning and had croissants to die for. My point is yes the final decision was mine but I had a lot of help in my decisions.

With that said, why would I ever think that I wouldn't need the same amount of help to lose as I accepted to gain? It just makes sense. This is true in every aspect of our lives. At some point we have to realize that asking for help is okay, is needed, and is a healthy choice.

Sometimes the help you may need is simply a hug, a ear or a shoulder but every once in awhile trust and believe the comfort we receive and that we can offer to one another is needed. As Tyler Perry says "love one to another" and feel no shame in not being alone.

Much Love,

Amy "PagesOfVision" Ward

Let your light Shine:Written By Beauty Tricey Ushery

Hello beauties all around the world!

 I certainly hope that you all are enjoying  the days of summer because  summer  will be gone before you know it.  The one thing that I like about living in Michigan is the  fact that we are able to experience  each of the four seasons in our lives. So when we are tired of Winter, then hear comes Spring. That also tends to happen in our present day lives.  We experience different  seasons in our lives and we may not like our Winter experience,  but not to worry, here comes Spring!

 I am  so very thankful for change in my life and that is the one thing that is constant, and that is change.  I am the type of person who loves  change because I  get bored rather quickly.  Don't  forget the lessons that we learn during the different seasons in our lives.   Sometimes,  we don't  get the lesson because we are so anxious to move on to the next season.  If we dont get the lesson,  we will keep going through the same thing during the season until we are able to move past that place. 

 I don't know about you but oftentimes I am in a rush to do things but as I  continue to live I learn.  I am learning to move myself  out of the way so that I can live my life on purpose.   Time is precious and it is something that we cannot get back.   I do hope that you as a person are learning to grow during  the different season's  in your life.  Life is full of surprises and one day things could be going great and then suddenly life has thrown you a curve ball.  Only 10% is what happens to  us and the other 90% is our reaction to situations in our lives.   I  am trying to  learn how not to react and learn to respond to things that take place.  I am trying to be the best me that I can be inspite of the things that are happening. 

 I am learning that I  am a vessel of God's love and that is exactly what I  would like to be depicted as; a vessel that is being used by God! I  want to be the best representation of IAmMe University that I can be.  I want to be the best mother that I  can be. I would like to be the best servant that I can be.  

The light that shines through me, is a representation of the light of God. So with that being said, look at yourself and ask yourself,  "Self, am I being the best me that I  can be and I  assure you that God will send you the answers that you are in need of.  Im signing off, this is Hollywood Tricey of I am me University and I  pray that you allow your light to shine among men so that they will see your light shining brightly and God will get the glory!!!  

Be blessed my friends, and know that you are!!!

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Lessons learned from my 90 Year Old Jewish Mentor:Written by Ibeauty

Ok Luvs... 

   I am currently watching Netflix(first season of Everybody Loves Raymond). This show is so funny to me. It's the very first show, and I get to fall in live with these crazy characters all over again.

   But, I must admit while I'm watching it, it caused me to think about a time when I used to trade in the commodities market. Ok, you're probably saying, what does that have to do with "EVERYBODY LOVES RAYMOND?" 

   Well... It was one of my Mentors favorite shows.

   We would sit together, and watch this show together and I must admit I loved to watch my Mentor watch it, because he was such a conservative man, who seemed to always be serious. But, during this show, he would let his hair down.  

   As I write this, I think of all the things he taught me, some deliberately, but mostly through osmosis. As you could probably tell by the way that I am writing about him, he is no longer with me, but his spirit, and his lessons are still here.

   Its  funny how we even met, will never forget it.  He was actually a client of mine, but I learned more from Him, than I could ever teach him. You see I was selling him currencies, but he was teaching me WEALTH. 

   So the tutorship began. We built a relationship based off of mutual respect, honesty and trust. He was a kind gentle man, but shrewd when it came to business. He taught me lessons about money that were so conceptualized that my tiny brain felt as though it would explode. He shared lessons about family, about GOD, AND MOST OF ALL ABOUT ME.

   He saw a young girl(24 at the time) that was hungry for knowledge,  a girl who was hungry for making a difference in this world, and who was ready to make her mark on this world. But he also saw a girl who was inexperienced to the ways of this world. A girl that was held back by her own fears, her own past, and her own limiting beliefs. You see he taught me more than I could ever learn in a text book.

   You see... I was always nervous about losing his money in the markets ,but he never was. He never was. Not because he desired to lose, but in his own words 

"MONEY IS NOT REAL KIM....ITS JUST AN IDEA, A CONCEPT, A TOOL IN WHICH TO BE LEVERAGED."

   As you can imagine, I was just a young woman from the south of these Unitesd States who thought 50k was living! Well ...let's just say my mentor exceeded millions, and that's just what I had access to. He explained through our friendship that money is a tool, and that only the wealthy use it properly. They hedge their investments. They invest in things that are not shared with others, not even at the bank.

   As you could imagine, I was a broker so I dealt with clients who had access to lots of money, but it wasn't their money that I paid attention to , it was.....

HOW THEY LOOKED AT THINGS.

HOW THEY THOUGHT.

WHAT THEY INVESTED IN.

I FELT LIKE I WAS IN THE TWILIGHT ZONE!

   I came from an Educated family, and a proud historical town, but I never understood that wealth was a concept, and was full for principles, and never knew anyone personally that could or would teach me these things.

   He exposed me to his circle, his private thoughts, and he shared information, books, access, and most importantly his time. I have opted shared with you all in their blog what I have learn from him, and he made me promise to pass things on to those that are serious and ready , and willing to share with their community, and be good stewards of it.

   So  I am in the process of finishing a book of insight, wisdom and advice to give you a peek of what took him a lifetime, and me years to bring to you. I can't wait. I know that it will be a blessing. God has blessed me, and now it's time.

I hope It gives you what you need to move your life forward. It sure helped me.

As always....

Love you from the inside out.

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Happiness Precepts Cont.

The happiness precepts which have been presented prior to  the ones I will complete today has caused me to closer examine my happiness state and make me examine which areas I am able to improve on as I travel down the road to ultimate happiness....

Precept #13- Do Not Steal-  In reading this one the comment which stood out, "Stolen goods greatly reduce in value; they have to be hidden, they are always a threat to liberty itself.  Stealing things is really just an admission that one is not capable enough to make it honestly.  Wow!!  Do you really want to be viewed as someone who didn't have the guts or the courage to make it on your own.  Something to think about- even in using someone's words and not giving credit where it's due is stealing!!

Precept #14- Be Worthy of Trust- Keep your word once given!  In my own words, your word is your bond!  If I can't trust you then I have no room for you within my circle!!  If you can't do something, just be honest enough to say you can't do it or you don't want to do it vs allowing the individual to think that the task will get completed by you knowing all the time you have no intentions of doing so.

Precept #15- Fulfill Your Obligations- Whether you have personal, professional, financial, or spiritual obligations- it is your job to do your part.  If you help to create a relationship that has resulted in another life, business transaction/ expenses, bills, etc- it is "morally" your obligation to fulfill your agreements.  Don't bite off more than you can chew.  If you bit it, chew it!

Precept #16- Be Industrious- The quote attached to this precept- The way to happiness is a high road when it includes industriousness that leads to tangible production!  Get busy, be productive and proactive!!

Precept #17- Be Competent- Look; Learn; and Practice.  "See what you see, not what someone tells you."  Inspect the information given to you, learn the truth from the false- cause and effect; action and consequences......  Learning also requires you remembering what which you were exposed to; good, bad, indifferent.  You can improve ways to make things better and develop an understanding of why things are the way they are.  Practice that which you have learned.  It is sometimes called trial and error.  Sometimes it takes more than one try before you can get it right.  "Any activity, skill, or profession requires practice!"  "The way to happiness is best traveled with competent companions!"

Precept #18- Respect the Religious Beliefs of Others- "Tolerance is a good cornerstone on which to build human relationships."  People have the right to believe what they choose and we must respect their beliefs.  Agree to disagree.

Precept #19- Try Not To DO Things To Others That You Would Not Like Them To DO To You- "The Golden Rule." I simply say Karma!!  It comes back around so if you are doing good by others when Karma visits you won't have any worries.
 
Precept #20- - Try To Treat Others As You Would Want Them To Treat You-  Another part of "The Golden Rule."  It comes back around so if you are doing good by others when Karma visits you won't have any worries.

The last of the 21 Precepts to Happiness #21- Flourish and Prosper- You can not worry about what your fellow man have.  Your job is to obtain your own and be successful in doing so.  Help others where they need help not becoming envious along the way. 

If you should get the time to read the article regarding "The 21 Precepts of The Way To Happiness," (www.thewaytohappiness.org/thewaytohappiness) please do so, you have only been given an abbreviated version through the blogs.  Thanks and have a great day!!!

The Next Generation

Good evening beauties!  I  certainly hope that your day was a productive day as well as positive day for everyone.   As we are living this thing that we call life, we have to pay attention to the things that we enjoy.  As I have stated before that so many of us are just existing and not living the life that God created us to have.  Life is what you make it and since I am learning more about me, I am learning the things to teach my children so that they will adapt to the principles that their father and I have become a custom to.  It is my desire that I be in good health,  even as my soul prospers.  God was so gracious enough to allow us to have life and to have life more abundantly.   I truly enjoy learning, knowledge is power, and I  am equipping my children with the tools that they need to help them to become successful.   I get to spend a lot of time with them because I am no longer able to work, however I am thankful that I am able to see them more and we communicate more.  The Bible teaches us that we should leave an inheritance for our children's children.   That is not just in finances but also teaching and passing along lessons that their children are able to learn and pass to their children.   Don't  mistake me, this verse is talking about money, but there are things that we should teach our children. Parents are our children's first teachers, not the teachers at school.  Taking the time to instill knowledge in our children is the gifts that we share with them.  They are the next generation and it is my prayer that God has mercy on the next generation because it is my belief that they are going to do some awesome things!  Be blessed and know that you are!

Happiness Cont.!!

I was to come back yesterday to continue the Precepts to Happiness but Life happened so I'm here today to continue.......

Precept #7- Seek to Live With Truth- False data can cause one to make stupid mistakes.  It can even block one from absorbing true data.  My pastor is doing a series on deceit and deceptive people.  He says even a partial truth is still a lie.  It is better to tell the truth and let the individual be mad with the truth and process it than for them to find out later the "your" truth was in fact a lie.  There were also subheadings to this: Do not tell harmful lies-  These are the product of fear, malice, and envy.  They can drive people to acts of desperation;  Do not bear false witness- in short "perjury."

Precept #8- Do Not Murder- Murder is defined as the unlawful killing of one (or more) human being by another, especially with malice.  This is also one of the 10 Commandments!!

Precept #9- Don't Do Anything Illegal- "Illegal acts" are those which are prohibited by official rules or law.  An illegal act can result in punishment by the courts and state.   In my mind, Orange is not the new black, especially for me!!!

Precept #10- Support A Government Designed and Run For All the People- "Unscrupulous and evil men and groups can usurp the power of government and use it to their own ends.  Government organized and conduced solely for self interested individuals and groups gives society a short life span.  I have no opinion regarding the government designed and run for all the people.......

Precept #11- Do Not Harm A Person of Good Will- "Despite the insistence of evil men that all men are evil, there are many good men around and women too.  You may have been fortunate enough to know some."  My motto is, you never know how God is sending one of his shepherd.  Just because it looks a certain way doesn't mean that it is.  Everybody doesn't have a motive some people just are genuinely good people!!

Precept #12- Safeguard and Improve Your Environment- Be of good appearance; Take care of your own area; and Help take care of the planet.  Don't complain if you aren't doing your part!!  Physical appearance is important as well as taking care of your possessions- homes, vehicles, children, communities, etc....

There are more precepts to happiness that I will share on tomorrow.  I hope these that have been shared thus far, gives you something to think about and focus on.

It's Up to You

The start of the week was quite a push and full of lessons. I came to work this morning happy and in a great mood. As I walk through the door I ran into someone that was not feeling the same. She approached me about some “mistakes” I had made during a call (she told me in front of other employees as well), and was very irritated. She explained how she got in trouble for my mistakes and she talked about how she should have called my supervisor. I apologized and told her it was a miss communication. She walked away still upset. I finished the call, and tried my best not to make any mistakes. I knew somehow I had to shift my energy to a more positive space, so I decide to go to the gym. A good workout always put me in a better mood. As I was on the last few minutes of my workout, I had a gym employee approach me to tell me I was not practicing the legs lifts correctly and the explained the correct way to do them. I told her than thank you, and finished. My mind went to a place of, “I am so tired of everyone approaching me about something I did wrong!” I thought about how as younger women those comments would have really sent me over, I probably would have had an attitude and would not have even received any of the information. I sat down and just had a moment of mediation. I realized that taking correction is a sign of maturity. I have really grown in my life, I am so grateful that. I called my supervisor to let her know what had transpired and she explained that she had not called her because the employee I spoke with was wrong and needed someone to blame for her own mistakes. Now thinking back if I had gotten and attitude, I may have lost my job or the employee would have had the power over me, and would have seemed to be right in that moment even though she was wrong. I also thought how this job was just a stepping stone to where I was going in life and it was a blessing in my life. “Perception is the only reality” (Inspirational Beauty) My lesson for today is I have to power over my emotions no one else. This is sometimes easier said than done …but it is possible. People can and will do things to make you angry , it’s part of the journey. You have to stay focus on the bigger picture. How? By “Keeping important what’s Important” -Open Your Heart Life Coaching, Ilonda Clayton

Happiness: Written by "Beauty" Dr. Demetria Hill Cannady

KMerriam- Webster defines happiness as good fortune; prosperity; a state of well-being and contentment; a pleasurable or satisfying experience.  While I agree with all these definitions, I feel like Happiness is what you make it.  You are the determining factor of your happiness.  So often, we allow others to dictate our happiness instead of realizing that we control our destiny.  In the past I have allowed others to control my happiness (unconsciously) because when they had made me angry, sad, or irritated, or scared, I forgot that I was happy within my own merit and situation.  As I was reading for pleasure and research, I stumbled across an article titled: "21 Precepts to Happiness,"(www.thewaytohappiness.org) which was an informative read that gives you something deeper to look at when it comes to defining and determining your happiness.  

Precept #1- Take care of yourself: Get care when you are ill; keep your body clean; preserve your teeth; eat properly, and get rest.  Under each heading there is more in depth information.  

Precept #2- Be Temperate: Do not take harmful drugs; do not take alcohol to excess.  In summary, you are not seeing the real world for what it is if you are under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs.  Neither will make you or allow you to be happy!  

Precept # 3- Don't be promiscuous: Be faithful to your sex partner.  "Sex is the means by which the race projects itself into the future through children and the family.  A lot of pleasure and happiness can come from sex: nature intended it that way so the race would go on.  But, misused or abused, it carries with it heavy penalties and punishments: nature seems to have intended it that way also."  This statement alone is a big "nugget" to chew on.  There are so many individuals having casual sex because they don't desire to be in a monogamous relationship.  Very costly decision.  

Precept #4 - Love and Help Children; "Today's children will become tomorrow's civilization.  Bringing a child into the world today is a little bit like dropping one into a tiger's cage.  Children can't handle their environment and they have no real resources.  They need love and help to make it."  I agree that we are all products of our environment. Sometimes parents can only teach children what they have been taught: good, bad, or indifferent.  However, it is up to you to determine your happiness as an adult even if life tossed lemons at you as a child.  Make lemonade or lemon meringue pie!!  

Precept #5- Honor and Help Your Parents: "There are differences between generations.  But truthfully, this is no barrier.  When one is weak, it is temptation to take refuge in subterfuges and lies; it is this which builds the wall."  Learn how to communicate with one another.  Agree to disagree and be aware that everyone has an opinion regardless if you think their opinion is right or wrong.  

Precept #6: Set A Good Example: There are many people one influences.  The influence can be good or bad.  If one conducts his life to keep these recommendations, one is setting a good example.  People are always watching you so be sure to be on your best behavior!!  My next blog will begin with Precept #7 which is seek to live with the truth... 

Until next time- Have a great day peps!!

"Doc"

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Six steps to help you put emotions in perspective:Written by Beauty "Ibeauty"

  

Hey Luvs!!!

Wow. . .it has been a beautiful day so far, but for some reason, I have not been able to get up and going. So I did the one thing that would FORCE ME TO GET A MOVE ON! That is making videos(LOL), So I decided to write about something that you may experience as well.

 So here goes. . . .  

We all experience ups and downs, and sometimes we experience these feelings from day to day, and if you are experiencing them, don't beat yourself up. Sometimes feelings come into play for different reasons. I simply suggest that you put them into perspective, and don't let them stop your progress. People often ask me, how do you do it Kim? I have a system that I use, when I fall into this trap. 

1.The first thing I do is understand that "WHAT"I am experiencing are just my emotions and they will pass. I give them permission to be there! They are a part of me . I don't try to stuff them  back down,  if I do, they will eventually come out, whether I want them to or not. So  I let them come out, and I give them a time limit. 

2.I allow myself 10 minutes to let them run wild, and after that I take control!

3.  I then set my goal in front of me

a. I  become specific about what I want

b  I become  specific about when I want it(attach a time line)

c. Be specific about HOW you're gonna do it!

Hey Luvs! Don't be so hard on yourselves today. Life is a slow progression. Excellence requires time,effort and action. Stay vigilant and you will get there.#inspirational #beauty

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Our First Relationship

I've been in the mood to write which is something that I haven't desired to do in such a long time.  I've always enjoyed writing because I was able to get my feelings out without having to share them with anyone.  I still have my journals from middle school and high school.  As I have reflected on my writing over the course of the years I have noticed that the majority has involved relationships of all sorts: personal, professional, friendships, intimate, not-so-much, etc...   As I continue this journey of finding my true purpose, it is evident that people and relationships are involved.  I sway to the side of the woman because that is who I am.  I reflected to when I briefly wrote for the Examiner and my first article was titled, "The Evolving of All Relationships," in which I discussed relationships to our mothers, bonding, and attachment.  Relationships make us who we are, good, bad, or indifferent.  In that article relationships were defined as the connection by blood or marriage; kinship; a particular type of connection between two people related to or having dealings with each other; and a romantic or sexual involvement.

Within the article I discussed the very first relationship we ever encounter is with our mother and secondary, our father (for those whose father is present).  Our mothers formed our first relationship with her maternal bond or lack thereof.  In my opinion our mothers taught us how to love, whether functionally or dysfunctionally.  What did we learn from our mothers through the years that taught us to have compassion for our fellow man/woman?  How did we observe our mothers when she showed compassion for her fellow man?  Did she allow herself to be cherished, loved, used, misused, abused, cower down, and/or did she demand respect for herself and her children?  Or did she manipulate, lie, cheat, and steal from her significant other/ spouse with you as an observer?  I asked the question the other day in my empowerment group- Which woman in your life (as a child/early adulthood) had an impact on the woman you became/ are becoming?  Most answered their mother/ grandmother.  Our mothers are to ensure the start of positive relationships by ensuring secure attachment.  If we are unsure and insecure in infancy, childhood, our teen years, and early adulthood because of a lack of bonding with the people (parents, especially our mothers) who were to show us how to have relationships and love- guess what???  We become insecure and unattached adult women who don't know how to love and don't know what love is!!  We desire a relationship but doesn't know what a healthy one looks like.  We can read about it but didn't get a chance to observe it while growing up.

As a woman, a mother, and friend, I make sure I put forth extra effort to be part of an example of a positive and healthy relationship, directly and indirectly.  Within my family unit- Directly by giving hugs, kisses, discipline, and words of affirmation to my daughter and my sons.  Indirectly by allowing them to observe the communication and interactions (hugs, cuddling, and forehead/ lip kisses) between my husband and I- explaining that everything in relationships are not about sex.  We discuss what you should look for in a significant other/ mate.  We (my children and I) discuss knowing what you want in/ from the relationship, what not to settle for when looking for a significant other, compromising, and most importantly knowing who you are prior to establishing a relationship, personal and professional.  I have these conversations with my friends as well.   All these things refer to the workplace as well: knowing what you desire from your employer, what you will not settle for, compromising, and knowing who you are prior to accepting that job/ position.  What are you desiring and accepting in your relationships?  #transparentbeauty

Process of Healing

When the world around me is silent I contemplate on all my past relationships. Some make me smile and other I fill my shot glass to and hope that the burn it causes in my chest will keep my tears away. Look…we all make mistakes…sometimes we take all the wrong treatment knowing its all wrong …just unsure how to put an end to the pain.

Believe me when I say you’re not alone. You’re not alone in your attempt to hold on to the dream. The dream of happiness with the wrong person or what you thought was meant for you and him/her. What’s obvious is not always what’s easy to do. At some point the “table” becomes set and your only dining partner is Reality. So I encourage you to sit at the “table” with Reality and let’s get real. As IB (@InspirationBeauty) says “let’s talk about it.”

First understand that this is a process. Yes…overcoming is a process. Even rainbows go through a process before they are created. I encourage you to go through this process with me. I hear your groans and I even see your screwed up face and I know you are wondering where I am going and how I can relate to you. All I will say is…no scratch that…all I will plead is that you hear me out and believe that I need you in this process as much as you may need another person.

Reality told me that before I can heal there are something’s that I must understand before I can move forward and I urge you to ride with me.

·         Understand that you must first  forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for the things you allowed, the things you knew about and the things you didn’t. Forgive yourself for allowing another person to ignore how unique and how special you are. Sometimes our biggest enemy is ourselves. Forgive and never forget. Use this experience as a tool to remind you of what you will never tolerate again. You deserve the best because you always give your best. If God can forgive you then you are allowed to forgive yourself.

·         Understand that all that has happened does not define the man/woman you are today. Everyone is capable of reform and change. God realizes this and that is exactly why you can turn the page and read a new chapter.

·         Understand that all the “shoulda coulda woulda’ves” are just a distraction. They are a distraction from you pushing forward and living the life you are intended to live. If you must, look at all the maybes, shoulda, coulda, would’ves, pray, and meditate on them and then move on because they do not represent the person you  are today.

·         Acknowledge all that has happened. The role you played in being hurt. People don’t do things to us that we don’t allow them to do to us. So yes, I am here to be in your face and say “We played a role in all our own hurt.”

      ·         Understand that at this point you need others. Its time to take that funky robe off, get off the couch, and put the Ben and Jerry’s (or Jack Daniels) back in the freezer…close the cap…and dial a friend.You are not alone so let go of that ideal. There is someone willing to listen while you let it all out.

     ·         Understand that you must push forward…PUSH…PUSH…PUSH FORWARD. Healing hurt is not a process that will happen overnight so be patient with yourself. If you must make a list…make one…Tell yourself everyday OUT LOUD...”I love me…I am beautiful…and I deserve genuine love.” Say “I am love therefore I deserve all the love the Universe has for me…It’s mine and today I claim it…RIGHT NOW AND FOREVER.” Yes it’s corny and yes you may need to say it several times but this is how you will start your day and what you will recite throughout the day.

A wise person once told me “you can fall in and out of love but you can’t fall out of understanding.” I hope my understanding is one you can fall into and I thank you for taking this journey with me. You’ll see me soon and I’ll greet you with all my love and understanding. UNDERSTAND WE ARE BEAUTY FROM THE INSIDE OUT and that’s an understanding I love to fall in understanding with. 

Much Luv,

Amy "@PagesOfVision" Ward

Moving Forward :Written By "Hollywood"

Good afternoon beauties and others all around the US of A!!!

I certainly hope that this day is going well for all of you.  I got off to a late start but it's  better late than never! I am learning how to move past the foolishness.  In life as we grow, things begin to not affect us as they once did.  By that I mean, it's just certain things that I  am just not going to entertain because of growth on my part.  

I'm no longer giving people "a piece of my mind" because I need my mind in its entirety. I will continue to learn by reading and educating myself so that I won't remain stagnate.  We are living in the information age and there are ways to get all the information that we need.  Knowledge is power and I am thirsty for knowledge. 

 We must feed our minds because  in this day and age we must learn all that we can.  With these diseases that I battle, I  research so many different things.  I praise God for the Dr's but, I  have to learn and read certain things for myself and I admonish you to do the same! 

 As always,  be blessed and know that you are! ☺☺☺☺

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